Category Archives: Parent/Teen Relationships

How to Connect with a Teen who Seems Withdrawn from the Family

As children enter adolescence, significant changes begin. Developmentally, teens are trying to create their own identity and cultivate independence. As a result, youth naturally begin to pull away from their parents. But these changes can be difficult for the family. Parents frequently describe situations, such as ‘my daughter used to tell me everything but now she seems to only share

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How to Fight Fair with your Teen

No one particularly likes conflict, but disagreements are a natural part of any relationship, and two people are never going to agree about everything.  Children need to know how to handle conflict in a positive way with their friends, teachers, future employers, and future partners. Teenagers also need to know that it’s alright to express their own needs and opinions

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How Parents Shape their Teen’s Mental Health During Pandemic

Most parents work really hard to raise their children in the best way that they can. Circumstances can make that job easier or harder, depending on a parent’s own stress level. Right now, the pandemic is making it much, much harder. With job losses, school closures, and political uncertainty, 2020 has made it difficult for anyone to reasonably hold it

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Parents Must Present a United Front with Teens

Parenting doesn’t come with an instruction manual, and there’s not one “right” way to do it. However there is scientific evidence that supports one important parenting tip: regardless of your parenting style or your family values, children thrive in households where both parents present a united front. What is a “united front”? The definition of a “united front” is a

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How to Handle Teens’ Rude Behavior During Lockdown

Rude behavior is fairly common among adolescents, but with so many families locked down in their homes during the pandemic, the problem is likely increasing. Everyone’s stress levels are higher, which makes all of us a little less patient and a lot more frustrated. As children enter adolescence, they begin to create a sense of identity and attempt to differentiate

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What to Do if your Teen is Ignoring Pandemic Shutdown Orders

The stay-at-home orders across the country have been met with a variety of reactions from the public. Some people are eager to follow the directives, while others believe the restrictions are an overreaction. This can cause a lot of tension in homes if family members don’t agree on the lockdown. Just last week, in Atlanta, GA, a stepfather argued with,

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Advice to Reduce Family Bickering During Quarantine

As the world shuts down and families take refuge inside their homes in an effort to flatten the curve of the coronavirus pandemic, it is inevitable that family tensions will rise. Everyone feels stressed – although in different ways – and there’s no escape or distraction from one another. We are bound to have short fuses and moments of frustration.

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How to Get a Teen to Talk about their Feelings?

During adolescence, it is fairly typical for a child to confide less in adults and more in friends. While adults should not overreact to this normal developmental process, there are definitely ways to develop and maintain positive, open, and effective communication with youth. When teens and adults communicate better, daily conflicts can be solved more easily and teens are more

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Are you a Snowplow Parent?

First we had helicopter parents — the types who anxiously “hover” over their children’s every move. Now, we have snowplow parents (also referred to as “bulldozer” or “lawnmower” parents). These mothers and fathers try to clear the path for their children by removing obstacles or challenges to what they want their children to achieve or to ensure their success. An

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Giving Your Teen Constructive Criticism

Let’s face it: no one is ever excited to receive criticism. It can hurt to be told you’re wrong or not doing something right. However, without criticism, we will never be able to grow or improve. When someone offers us criticism, they open our eyes to perspectives we may have overlooked or never considered, and they offer new ideas for

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What is Your Parenting Style?

In psychology today, experts have identified four basic parenting styles: authoritative, authoritarian, permissive and uninvolved parenting. They are defined as follows: Authoritative parenting is characterized by parents’ high expectations, open communication style, and understanding and support for their children. They offer guidance, explain and enforce rules, and create a positive relationship. Authoritarian parenting, also called strict parenting, is characterized by

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What is Positive Parenting?

Positive parenting emphasizes the communication of clear expectations, collaboration between a parent and their teen, praise and reinforcement for desired behaviors, and the avoidance of harsh consequences. It is an approach that treats kids respectfully, tends to focus on the good in a child, avoids the use of bribes or yelling, and usually builds closer relationships within the family. Researchers

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Why Parents Should Not Overpraise Their Teens

Parenting adolescents is frequently a delicate balancing act – don’t be too strict, nor too lenient; be involved, but not overinvolved; encourage your teen to participate in activities, but don’t over-schedule them; monitor their activities, but don’t snoop. We have basically learned from research that there can be too much of a good thing! This is true with our praise,

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